×

FAQs

FAQs

Visiting the Drop In

What can I get from the drop in?

  • Free condoms and lube
  • Pregnancy testing
  • Chlamydia testing
  • We have a nurse in twice a week from Conifer, on a Tuesday and Thursday afternoon, who can give you to access hormonal forms of contraception (pill; patch; injection; implant/rod).
  • A health worker from Conifer services who can give a full sexual health screening, which includes blood tests for HIV, hepatitis and syphilis, as well as chalmydia and gonorrhoea.
  • You are always welcome to pop in for a chat and find out more about what we do and can offer.

Is it free?

Yes, all of our services are free of charge.

Will you tell anyone I've been in?

We are a confidential service, this means will never tell anyone that you have been in or what you've talked about - UNLESS we are worried for your safety, or someone else’s safety.  We will always tell you if we need to speak to someone else first and keep you up to date with what has happened.

So no, we will not call your parents, we won't tell your mates in the waiting room, or school, or your doctors... or anyone!

What happens when I come in to the drop in for…

Condoms:

We very simply take a few confidential details from you and ask you which condoms you would like.  You can have a mixed pack, or just the ones you prefer.

You can also ask for free lube – all the lube we give out is water based so safe to use with condoms.

Pregnancy testing:

No appointment is needed, we can do a test with you when you come in, but we can’t give them to you to take away. 

We will ask you a few questions to determine if we can do a test for you that day or if another service is needed.  If we can test you we will ask you to pee in a sample pot in the toilets, which we then use for our dip stick test in our private clinic room.  We will ask you a few questions, these are only so we can give you better information and help.  The test takes a few minutes then we will give you the result positive means you are pregnant, negative means you are not pregnant.

The worker will discuss the result with you and explain what might be going to happen next.  For example you may be advised to come back the next week to double check if it’s not been long since you had unprotected sex.

Our workers will never force you into a decision about your options.

Chlamydia testing:

If you ask for a STI test, we can test you for chlamydia and gonorrhoea any day which we are open using the same test. You can either wee in a pot if you’re male or female, or females can do a self swab instead (this is basically a long cotton bud you wipe around the inside of the vagina yourself). 

We take a few details to go with the test so we can get in touch if you need treatment, and that’s it!

None of the Cornerhouse workers are medically trained, we don’t look at your genitals, if you have a symptom that needs checking we would advise you to go to Conifer Services up the road to see a nurse/doctor there as they may be able to give you treatment that same day.

If it is your first visit to us and you are:

Under 16

We must complete an extra form with you on your first visit, it doesn’t take long and is there making sure you are safe and not being hurt in any way. This is all confidential, even though we will ask some personal questions, we will not tell anyone about your visit, unless we are worried about you and we will always tell you first if we are going to do this.  We will record a few bits of information which is stored until you are 16 and then we shred it.

Over 16

If it is your first visit and you are over 16, we only need to take a few details but we will make sure you know what else you can get from us, and tell you about the different types of condoms and services. 

Why do you take information from me?

We need to record who we see to prove the work that we do, the easiest way to do this is to take a few deatails from you.  We will ask for: 

  • your initials
  • your ethnicity (eg. British)
  • your date of birth and age
  • the first part of your postcode (eg. HU1)

We will then record what you have come in for, eg. a pack of condoms, or a test, and that is it!

Will I be judged?

Cornerhouse is a completely non-judgemental organisation.  We are here to listen, support you and give information, not judge you for something which has happened or you have done.  We won’t be shocked, we won’t judge you and it will never effect the treatment you receive from us.  Please just ask for whatever you need and we will support you in any way we can.

Will I be told off for not using condoms?

You will not be told off for not using condoms, we know mistakes happen and people don’t always use condoms or forget their pill.  We are not here to tell you off, only find ways in which you can protect yourself and your partner and stay safe.

Can I choose my own condoms?

YES! At Cornerhouse we think it is very important that you have a full range of condoms to choose from.  We use LTC Healthcare (EXS) and Pasante condoms to cover our client’s needs.  No we do not stock durex at the moment.

We offer: ‘regular’, ‘ribs and dots’, ‘air thin’, ‘flavours’ ‘trim’, ‘king size’ and ‘super king’, as well as a range of ‘fun’ condoms which will usually be regular size such as ‘glow in the dark’.

We also have latex free condoms (we don't need a letter from your doctor), female condoms and dental dams for free.

Can I choose to see a man or a woman?

Yes, you can choose to talk to any worker you like, where we have a male and female worker you will of course have the choice, however we can’t guarantee that there will always be both in our young people’s drop in or other services. 

Although we completely understand why someone may be more comfortable speaking with one gender over another, please be assured that we will always try to make you feel comfortable and able to speak to us about anything whatever your gender and needs.

Will I have to wait to be seen at the drop in?

Usually people are seen pretty quickly at the drop in, however at busy times you may have to wait for a bit.  This is a walk in service so you can always pop back if you don’t want to wait, or grab a sofa and make yourself comfortable, if you’re lucky you might even get a brew!

Do I need an appointment?

If you want to see the nurse for contraception you may have to wait a few weeks as it is a very busy service.  Alternatively you can access contraception Monday-Saturday through Conifer services which is a drop in service, however waiting times are different all the time and we wouldn’t be able to advise you on how long you might be waiting.

If you want a full STI check you can usually make an appointment to see our health worker the same week, she is in every Wednesday afternoon, but if you pop in they will fit you in where possible but you might have a short wait or be advised the what time she will be free.

What if I miss my appointment?

We appreciate it if you can let us know if you will not be able to make an appointment so we can then offer the time to someone else call us to rearrange your appointment, 01482336322

I want regular support, can you do this?

Yes, you are always welcome to pop in for a chat at the drop in, however if you feel you need more, speak to a worker and if we can't help we can find other workers and services that all offer varying levels of support which might be able to help. This will be likely to require a referral to be made, you can often do this yourself or sometimes social workers or school’s might do this, depending on how many people are already being supported it can take a bit of time for your support to start.

Can I bring someone with me?

Yes this is not a problem.  Lots of people come in with their partners or friends.  You can bring your children or younger siblings with you (although please be aware they have to stay with you for safety). You might want to come with a support worker from another service, some people come in come in with their parents! Any of this is fine, we want you to feel comfortable.  Also, if you come in with someone, but you don’t want them in the private room with you, let us know and we will make sure you are seen alone.

How old do I have to be?

We will talk to you at any age although we really work with 13-19 year olds. 

You need to be 13 to get condoms from us, if you are 12 or under and tell us you are having sex we would have to take that information further to make sure you are not being hurt.  We want young people to come into see us even if you aren’t having sex, so don’t worry if you’re not, it means you will know where to go when you are ready.

If you are under 16 and having sex you can still get confidential services from us.

If you are 20+ you can pop in if you know where we are and need to ask something, but the service for you is called MESMAC

What does confidentiality mean?

Confidentiality means that your information is kept private.  We will not tell anyone that you have been in to see us or what for, unless we are worried about your safety.  If you are under 16 we have got to tell someone if you tell us that you or someone else is being harmed in some way.  For example, if you told us someone was forcing you to have sex, we would be concerned about your safety and have to tell someone.  You will always know if this is going to happen, we would discuss it with you first, but we would have to take it further.  Usually this means a referral to social services.

STI FAQs

How many times can you catch chlamydia?

You can catch chlamydia as many times as you come into contact with it.  Just because you’ve had it before doesn’t mean you can’t catch it again (see chlamydia STI page)

Does getting a test hurt?

No, there may be some uncomfortable parts depending on if you have symptoms, but if you are just checking to be sure you will only have to pee in a pot or self swab, and give a little bit of blood.

There are lots of scary stories about things being put down penises etc, but they will only do a tiny swab if there is discharge.  It might not be very comfortable but it shouldn’t really hurt.

Do I have to get my bits out?

Usually no, unless you have any symptoms, which a doctor or a nurse would take a look at, you will not have to show anyone your genitals.

How long will my STI test take?

Not long at all, most people are done in 20 minutes if they are just getting check-up, if you have symptoms it might take longer

How long till I get my results?

Results are usually back within about 2 weeks, staff at Conifer will get in touch with you if you need treatment

I’ve not heard anything from my test.

When you have your test we will explain that no news, is good news!  If you’ve not heard anything you can assume the test is negative.  If you still want a definite result we can call for you, or you can call 336397 for your results.

What will happen to me if I have a sexually transmitted infection (STI)?

This really depends on which STI you have, please see our STI section for more information, or pop in and see us for a chat.

Genders

 

Face Spiky Hair

 

Boys and Young Men

Is wanking/masturbation bad for you?

No, this is a common worry people have, but it is completely natural to experience sexual feelings and to explore these. Masturbation done at the right time and place can also relieve stress.

Condoms

Do condoms come in different sizes?

Yes, there are lots of different sizes, we have 4 different sizes usually. 

Men can worry about the size of their penis, and often make jokes about their friends needing different sizes – we’ve hear that joke every day! 

We want to reassure you we don’t judge you for whatever you ask for.  Condoms, whatever the size are usually fairly similar in length, and the main difference is in the width/circumference of that condom.  The difference can be a few millimetres between sizes, but this could be the difference between your condoms falling off or splitting, or fitting you and protecting you from both STIs and pregnancy.  If you are a young man trying to find out what you should use, we advise you to go try them on on your own to see what feels comfortable for you!

How do you use a condom?

Condoms are really easy to use and are 98% effective a preventing pregnancy and STIs when used correctly, follow these steps:

  1. Make sure the penis is fully erect before putting on a condom.
  2. Check the use-by-date. Also look for any damage to the packet.
  3. Check the packet for the kitemark and / or the CE mark
  4. Push the condom to one side and hold out the way. Open the condom packet carefully at one side. Let go of the condom and gently squeeze it out of the packet.
  5. Hold the end of the condom to squeeze the air out. This is very important as allowing air to stay in the end could make it split.
  6. Roll the condom down the penis. Be careful of long nails and jewellery
  7. After sex, remove the condom by holding the bottom and sliding it off.
  8. Tie a knot in the condom, and throw it in the bin. Never flush them down the toilet!

If the condom is too tight or slips off during sex please ask about different sizes, fitting and thickness

Chat

 

Pregnancy and Testing

What happens if I have a positive pregnancy test?

This really depends on you.  We are not going to try and persuade you to do one thing or another.  What we will do is ensure you have all the information to make your choice.  Whether you want to continue with or end the pregnancy we will support you to the next step.

If you are continuing with the pregnancy:

We will give you the information of the midwife team who will sort out an initial appointment with you, if you are nervous we will support you to make the call.  We can also arrange for you to meet up with the targeted pregnancy support team – Christine is with us every Friday.

If you are terminating the pregnancy (having an abortion):

We can make you an appointment at the hospital, or make a referral to Conifer Sunday clinic

If you don’t know what to do:

It is OK if you don’t know what you want to do. We usually suggest that if you think you might make the decision have an abortion that we get that referral made so time is on your side (you can have an abortion at up to 12 weeks in Hull), you can cancel the appointment at any point, you are not committing to this decision by doing this.

If you are under 16 we do not automatically have to tell anyone.  However, we will discuss with you who and how you might tell someone, for example your parents.  It is important you and your partner are supported whatever your choice.

The Truth About Sex

There are so many stories around sex, it’s hard to know what to believe. Find out the facts - it's the best way to make sure you have safer sex.

Can you get pregnant the first time you have sex?

Yes, pregnancy is possible even if it is the first time a girl has had sex. The truth is, if a boy and a girl have sex and don’t use contraception, she can get pregnant, whether it’s her first time or she has had sex lots of times.

A boy can get a girl pregnant the first time he has sex with her. If you’re female and have sex, you can get pregnant as soon as you start ovulating (releasing eggs). This happens before you have your first period. Using contraception protects against pregnancy. Using condoms as well also protects against sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Before you have sex, talk to your partner about contraception, and make sure you’ve got some. 

Can you get pregnant if a boy withdraws (pulls out) before he comes?

Yes, you can. There's a myth that a girl can’t get pregnant if a boy withdraws his penis before he ejaculates (comes). The truth is, pulling out the penis won’t stop a girl from getting pregnant.

Before a boy ejaculates, there's sperm in the pre-ejaculatory fluid (pre-come), which leaks out when he gets excited. It only takes one sperm to get a girl pregnant. Pre-come can contain STIs, so withdrawing the penis won't prevent you from getting an infection.

If a boy says he’ll take care to withdraw before he ejaculates, don’t believe him. Nobody can stop themselves from leaking sperm before they come. Always use a condom to protect yourself against STIs, and also use other contraception to prevent unwanted pregnancy.

Can you get pregnant if you have sex during your period?

Yes, a girl can get pregnant during her period. The truth is, she can get pregnant at any time of the month if she has sex without contraception.

Sperm can survive for several days after sex, so even if you do it during your period, sperm can stay in the body long enough to get you pregnant.

Can you get pregnant if you have sex standing up?

Yes, a girl can become pregnant in any position that she has sex. It is a myth that a girl can’t get pregnant if she has sex standing up, sitting down, or if she jumps up and down afterwards. The truth is, there’s no such thing as a "safe" position if you’re having sex without a condom or another form of contraception.

There are also no "safe" places to have sex, including the bath or shower. Pregnancy can happen whatever position you do it in, and wherever you do it. All that's needed is for a sperm to meet an egg.

Can you get pregnant from oral sex?

No, you can't get pregnant following oral sex. The truth is, a girl can’t get pregnant this way, even if she swallows sperm. But you can catch STIs through oral sex, including gonorrhoea, chlamydia and herpes. It’s safer to use a condom on a penis if you have oral sex. 

Does alcohol make you better in bed?

No, alcohol does not make you better in bed. The truth is, when you’re drunk it’s hard to make smart decisions. Alcohol can make you take risks, such as having sex before you’re ready, or having sex with someone you don't like. Drinking won't make the experience better. You’re more likely to regret having sex if you do it when you’re drunk.

Can you use clingfilm as a condom? 

No, you cannot use clingfilm, or a plastic bag or a crisp packet instead of a condom. Only a condom can protect against STIs.

You can get condoms free from:

Cornerhouse Young Person’s Drop-in
sexual health and genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinics

Will a boy's balls explode if he doesn't have sex?

No, this is not true. Not having sex doesn't harm boys or girls, and a boy’s balls will not explode.

Boys and men produce sperm all the time. If they don’t ejaculate, the sperm is absorbed into their body. Ejaculation can happen if they masturbate or have a wet dream. They don’t have to have sex

Can you wash condoms and use them again?

No, condoms should only be used once. Don't believe anyone who says that you can wash condoms and use them again. If you've used a condom, throw it away and use a new one if you have sex again.

This is true for male condoms and female condoms. Condoms need to be changed after 30 minutes of sex because friction can weaken the condom, making it more likely to break or fail.

Can you get pregnant if you have sex only once?

Yes, it is possible to get pregnant even if you only have sex once. You may have heard the myth that you have to have sex lots of times to get pregnant. The truth is, all it takes is for one sperm to meet an egg. To avoid pregnancy, always use contraception, and use a condom to protect against STIs.

Do you always get symptoms if you have an STI?

No, you might not know if you have an STI due to signs such as it hurting when you pee, or noticing a discharge, unusual smell or soreness. 

Many people don't notice signs of infection, so you won't always know if you're infected. You can't tell by looking at someone whether they've got an STI. If you're worried that you've caught an STI, pop into Cornerhouse Young Person’s Drop-In or local sexual health clinic. Check-ups and tests for STIs are free and confidential, including for under-16s. 

Can women who have sex with women get STIs?

Yes, women who sleep with women can get or pass on STIs. If a woman has an STI, the infection can be passed on through vaginal fluid (including fluid on shared sex toys), blood or close bodily contact. 

Always use a new condom on shared sex toys. If a woman is also having sex with a man, using contraception and condoms will help to prevent STIs and unintended pregnancy.

Does starting her periods mean a girl is ready to have sex?

No, this isn't true. Starting your periods means that you're growing up, and that you could get pregnant if you were to have sex. It doesn’t mean that you're ready to have sex, or that you should be sexually active.

People feel ready to have sex at different times. It’s a personal decision. Most young people in England wait until they're 16 or older before they start having sex.

Can I get help and information on sex if I need it?

If you want to talk to someone in confidence, you can pop into Cornerhouse Young People’s Drop-In to talk to a worker in confidence.

 

© Cornerhouse 2017. Company Limited by Guarantee Number: #2626968 Registered Charity Number: #1003540 Website designed by Jenko and built by indicoll

Privacy Policy Cookie Policy Disclaimer Accessibility